For heaven’s sakes...
GOOD, not EVIL, allowed the
Duggars’ transgressions to be televised.
I am
guessing...GUESSING...that The DEVIL didn’t dig up this news story on Josh
Duggar– the LORD wanted everyone to know you can be a good person even AFTER
something DISGUSTING happens to you.
THIS Duggar DISCOVERY should
HELP you, oh sinful one.
People are not ripping into
the Duggars because people are hypocrites (that is unrelated – people are
totally hypocrites...YOU think YOU are NOT a hypocrite? Oh...whatever...okay then, you are never a
hypocrite. Good job.).....
Real PEOPLE are “ripping into”
the Duggars because the Duggars have made them feel like total losers for the
last however-many years.
The Duggars HAVE NOT kept it
REAL.
And, by doing this, the
Duggars were kinda, sorta asking to be ripped.
(I have so many things to
say: where to start, where to start....)
Firstly, when you are asking
to be ripped (AKA televising your sanctimonious lifestyle), you should FIRST do
an inventory of your skeleton-closet. If
the skeletons in there are say...DINO-size, yes...like massive big...then you
might want to slow your roll OR you might want to package yourself – for the
masses – just a bit less sanctimonious.
The peoples just LOVE cheering for the underdog. If you package yourself as a normal family
with troubles...leaning on the Lord, trying to get it right, showing warts now
and then...then people will not dig in your dirt as eagerly.
Secondly, think of this: if you are going to run for President in this
day and age – people gonna dig. That is
all there is to it. I tell my oldest son,
when he says he would make a good president, “Then you better keep your nose
clean or you will see your indiscretions on Hannity.” (We watch Hannity, so son knows this is not a
goal.) Does this mean only perfect
people can run for President...ahhhh....let me think about that for a
second...YES. Yes, only perfect people
can run for President – unless they don’t mind and/or are READY FOR a little
skeleton sharing.
That brings me to my third
point:
No one is perfect.
So, when you put yourself on
TV, expect someone, somewhere, to figure that out and put THAT on TV, too. It will make good TV to announce that YOU – the
Perfect Ones – are NOT PERFECT after all.
That is not shocking – that
is the way it is.
Why is ANYONE shocked by ANY of this? WHERE have you been LIVING?
Fourth idea for sharing: I don’t think a reality television show
should ever be based on a sanctimonious lifestyle – because that is just lying. We are not morally superior to one
another. We are all faltering. I mean, even Little House on the Prairie had
Pa with an angry outburst now and then.
We cheered when Pa was his gentle prairie-lovin self again. We WANT to cheer for people, help them be
better, see them through their trials, help good people heal after their son
does something horrible. Key word
here: TRIALS. We need to know everyone has TRIALS. No one likes the one who is all perfect all
the time – we KNOW they are LYING to us and that presents members of the sinful
club (all of us) with a treasure hunt – the treasure is the EVIDENCE that they
are not unlike US .
And, even if you WERE doing
everything right – maybe...maybe just keep that to yourself.
Cause bragging takes all
forms: sometimes it looks like a reality
TV show.
Were you watching the Duggars
subtly brag all over the TV?
Were you trying to be a
Duggar?
You still can be a Duggar,
you know. It might actually be easier
now.
Me. No. I
didn’t want to be a Duggar because I like to tell everyone about my
problems. That is my thang. And, for that reason, I would have
appreciated a big Duggar struggle be shared on TLC.
A BOND happens when we
STRUGGLE together.
The Duggars never let us see
them struggle.
The Duggars HAD to see this
coming...?
The Duggars SHOULD have a
canned reaction/speech/perfect response READY.
Did they REALLY think no one would find out about their son’s
deeds?
Um.
I guess I am just more
paranoid than the folks down in Arkansas
I am not happy that their son
did something so terrible. Is anyone
actually HAPPY about that? That would make
them SICKOS, not hypocrites.
In any case, what the son did
was unspeakably awful,
but...and I hate to be the
one to tell you, if I am the one telling you....disgusting kinda stuff happens
in families all over the place. I, for
one, can think of MANY (TOO many) families where the relatives did disturbing
sexual exploration on other relatives. It
is horrifying. But, it occurs more often
than you want to admit. This may shock
you, but you may just need to go into your skeleton closet and do a little
count. We tend to bury this stuff to the
point that we forget...and then when we read someone else did that, we act all
shocked, because the more shocked we act, the more protected we are from
figuring out we have been close up to that kind of wickedness.
Sin is constant. We are at war. Don’t forget.
But – and this is IMPORTANT -
we don’t shun the families where sin is flaring up. We pray for them.
And, here is the CHALLENGE - when
someone has made money off being sanctimonious....it is just so hard to have
that instinct FIRST – that PRAY FOR THEM instinct.
‘
The first instinct MIGHT BE
(shhhhhhh) MIGHT BE....
Relief?
because they televised
perfection
and you are not perfect.
BUT, you gotta do it, girl. You gotta stifle your “I KNEW it!” and your
“I TOLD you so!” and you gotta channel that relief that you are not the only
heathen family...
and you gotta pray for the
Duggars.
Right now.
Go on.
We will all feel a little
more connected to the Duggars now,
and most of you who loved
them will just love them better – no one will admit to this, but – for good
people - love will be a byproduct of seeing them
struggle.
Regularly, I post my
struggles on Facebook for all my friends to read. I don’t do that because I am proud of my
struggles. I do that to give my friends
COMPANY in their struggles, and to give MYSELF company as I struggle to be a
better person – every second...of every day.
I want people to know I
struggle. I let them see THAT side of
me, just as much as I let them see the side wearing lipstick at the fundraiser.
And I tell my children, don’t
act like you have it all together, all the time, or you will distance yourself
from the people who need you most.
It is a dance. You stay light on your toes most the time,
but you throw in a stomp now and then.
Or, it is a recipe. You add a pinch of exposed struggle to bake a
good friendship.
I bet those who need a holy
example are now watching the Duggars more than ever...
to see how they will get
through this,
so we can all know how to get
through our crap,
and the Duggars should know
they can bake a really good friendship cake now...
and they can dance – get back
up on their toes...after this stomping component of the number.
So, now they have cake to serve and a dance number to present.
Sounds like an opportunity to me.
